I know it seems like a strange topic. Shelly (mother-in-law) were chit chatting about this today. This is NO way a reflection of my family! I do not blog out my personal family issues only topics I feel led to share. The peer pressure can come from your mother telling you how to apply the baby lotion or it can come from your mother-in-law telling you that Disney cartoons are bad for children, that her kids never had cable and their fine.(none of these comments have been made by my mother or my mother-in-law they are mearly examples.)
Unfortunately no one tell you this about being a parent. No one tells you how you'll "hurt feelings" by making decisions that are best for your child. I have reminded myself and many family members and friends that it's not about feelings.I think one of the hardest transitions for me was becoming the mom. I was so use to my mom and other authorities that I just did as I was told all the while thinking I hated doing it this way. Over my short time as a mom I have learned a few things as will you. You have to come into your self and stand up for how you want it done. That's how you come into your own as a parent. For mothers of mothers it's hard because they are use to telling you what to do now your telling them what they can and cannot do with a child/infant. My transition was a little easier than most I'm sure. Everyone was terrified of Elizabeth other than her pops so they pretty much just followed orders. As shes gotten older I have had to set more boundaries. They have supportingly followed orders very well.
In my family I have learned you take the advice you want and throw out the rest. Shelly, you never take her advice on medical issues. ( she's been know to let two "bug bites" aka staff abcesed bumps off as no biggie. She also known to pass off a bone tumor as growing pains. This is all written in good humor. She openly acknowledges she's a " no nonsense mom" she makes "no bones" about it.) My mother has been known to be a tad dramatic. ( she's known for thinking a runny nose from teething is bronchitis.)
As a new mom I do still seek out advice in SOME things. I have just learned what to ask whom. I have also learned if their advice doesn't coincide with mine that it's okay. It's okay to parent the way I want to because at the end of the day Jay and I parent to the best of our ability. We will be the one to answer to The Lord for the answers we gave our children. We discuss and decide together how we feel something should be approached.
So in summing it up never let a friend pressure you into thinking that your child needs an IPad or your mother tell you what diaper brand is best. Be the parent to the best of your ability with Gods help. With Gods help you can't fail. I've been told by my mother-in-law if your children grow up to be Godly,responsible, productive citizens of society you've done your job.
Proverbs 22:6
6 Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.
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