Struggles

Something tells me this blog can relate to ALL mommies. But being a "special" mommy, or mommy in general,  we stay scatterbrained and so busy in "Mommy Mode" we forget about "Wife mode." I am so caught up in the diaper changes, medications, feedings, and etc.. that I forget about what me and jay call "Mommy and Daddy Time." 

I am here to tell you I spend 85% of my day consumed with Elizabeth. Is that wrong? No not really. Is it perfectly fine? No not really. I am imagining every mamma reading this just thought.. I would never say that about my children. Did she just say that? She doesn't mean that. I think that but would never say it.Okay Peeps before every mom drops dead of a heart attack, I love Elizabeth there is no doubt about it BUT at the end of the day our "little babies" will grow up and have a life of their own. I do not know about you but I am madly in love with my husband and I want to make sure that he is cherished and spoiled. HE is MY person. Not Elizabeth. Tough pill to swallow?

A VERY wise woman mentioned in our Sunday night dinner for September Birthdays that " You are always suppose to love your husband MORE than you children." Okay, I will be the first to admit it doesn't exactly sound great but it is the truth. My husband is and will ALWAYS be my partner. I took vows " to have and to hold until death does us part" and I meant those.  I did not mean "until we grow apart because I become the devoted soccer mom and you became the workaholic." As a devoted mom, it has been THE toughest thing for me. Special needs or not... it is still a tough pill to swallow. Do I struggle with this? Oh, most definitely.

 Prime example... there is a concert coming up in Tupelo,MS on Nov. 9th and we will stay OVERNIGHT. I am already talking myself out of it. Jay on the other hand, will drag me sedated and stuffed into the trunk if he has to. As a married couple you NEED those times together. Well.. not the sedated and stuffed in the trunk.. if you have those you probably should call 911 or even a divorce lawyer. ( I do apologize, I guess I am feeling witty today.)

As a mom you can spin this either way. You can make someone out to be a terrible parent because they wanted a "date night" or you can realize that it takes WORK to keep a happy marriage. Your marriage doesn't keep running on the same fuel from the day you got married. It is like a car. Is your car still running on the same gas from the day you bought it? I think not. If it is I need your car! 

Bottom Line Moms:
Take "Mommy and Daddy Time" because the best thing you can do for your children is to show them what a HAPPY and FUNCTIONAL marriage is. I am not condoning leaving your child for someone else to be  responsible ur feeling "stressed out." I am saying that once a month take a "Mommy and daddy Break." For that matter you do not even have to leave your house! I am sure their is a grandparent (Well we have 2 sets) that would KILL to have that little one/ Big kid for one night. If there is one thing I have noticed is that Jay's parents, as well as my own, have never smiled more than they have in the last year. Good luck moms as you treading water to figure out how to balance this wonderful thing they call motherhood!