Life isn't fair

It seems we hear the phrase "it's just not fair" more than we'd all like to admit. It seems that every time we get in a difficult situation we feel its "unfair." 

To me it's a natural grieving step. We think its not fair when it happens to good people. We can't seem to understand why someone who did something "the right way" seems to get the "short end of the stick. " When Elizabeth was diagnosed I remember that feeling. I would have a mental explosion at the sight of a mom smoking while pregnant, or having the nightly glass of red wine. I refused caffeine the whole time. Even when jay and I began trying. I took my vitamins religiously. I didn't eat cooked sushi in the chance it was cut on the same board as raw. 

I was recently put in contact with a family that did it the "right way." And her little one is being faced with the impossible. But thankfully we know the Great Physician! As I tried to console the friend of the mothers she said... It's just not fair. And truth be... It's NOT! It's not fair we go through delivery and pregnancy and have a possibility of losing our baby. But as I pointed put to her that God did not promise that life was fair he did promise that his plans were not to harm us! 

So the next time it's not fair  that your child takes 20 minutes to eat 6oz of formula remember there is a mommy out there that could be giving her baby their last bottle. Or was never given the opportunity to hold her baby and give her the first bottle. Life is not fair but God does have a plan for us.